Better to Have Loved and Lost

The saying we often hear through the tears of a post break up advice session is "It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all." I have to say, I partially disagree. It is always better to love, but do we have to loose?
I strongly believe that at the end of a relationship, if you feel as though you have lost, you either don't have closure, or it wasn't love to begin with. When we end a relationship, whether it be with a friend or partner, we never loose the growing. We keep the experiences, the memories, the tears, and the laughs. When all is said and done (aka no secrets involved in the memories), the precious moments last forever in our pasts like marble statues of old kings. When we love and feel love in return, we never loose. We have won. We have achieved a miraculous (I know corny) connection with another human in which we feel safe, beautiful, and worthy. Through the fights and tears, we learned resolution. Much of what we gain from these connections is not the petty facts about his life, but the huge realizations we gain about ourselves. Love pushes morals and boundaries. It makes us uncomfortable and safe at the same time; it's one giant oxymoron.
Although falling and love and the prospect of someone having over 80 percent control over your emotions can be terrifying, I can truthfully say that it is worth it. Hopefully at the end, you can say that both people were changed for the better. And, painful as it is, when we see a past love with someone else we can take pride in the fact that we made them a better person so that they can love more fully, cherish more readily, and better bestow happiness on others.
So don't be afraid. Open that icy cold heart and let love melt away the snow. Let yourself love. Let yourself be loved.

Could you please cause me as much pain as possible?

Considering all the things that women do nowadays for beauty, it seems as though we ask that question daily. Either we ask it of our jeans (that no longer fit) or our hairdresser (who loves to pull our hair and comb our ears) or of our waxer (enough said). So why is it that we put ourselves through so much pain? Are we taking "beauty is pain" to a whole other level; "the more painful the more beautiful." I found myself wondering this as I had the hairs ripped out of my legs by a perky brunette.
I have been told that waxing gets easier every time, less painful. Well I would like to lay a strip of wax on those liars and find out.
Dear Leg Waxing,
You are my Goliath. I guess that makes me Dave-ina (Davina looks like Vagina).
I first waxed my legs when I was fifteen or sixteen. We had a christmas trip to the Bahamas, and Lord knows I was hairy enough. After that, I held off for a year. Then I discovered bikini waxing. Now thats a party. Maybe I should bring champagne next time and toast every strip. Well...maybe not. Despite the pain, it is soooo worth it. I mean, who wants to introduce themselves and their parts at the beach? Besides, shaving there is not a good plan. NO! Stop it. Don't even think about nair. You will be burning for about a day.
If however, you decide to wax, here are some tips and facts. The average half-leg wax goes right above the knee and should cost about 30$. If you live in a big city, you will most likely be able to find a sketchy place where the women speak russian and only charge 20$. I definately recommend trying the bargain. If you come out with a heart shaped patch down under, It'll grow back. For dry climates at high altitude, such as Colorado, strip wax can be used on the legs. On the bikini however, the wax that is pulled off by hand is less painful. Antoine Du Chez on Belleview or Colorado Blvd use it. Now for the color of the wax. I don't think the color makes much difference so don't be alarmed if you see dark green or light pink or clear. Lastly, some salon's use baby powder on the legs. This helps them to see the hair, protect the skin, and helps the strips adhere. Oh, and yes, you can get waxed at that time of the month. It may be slightly more painful on the side from which you are ovulating, but its no big deal. But, for my sake, please don't wear a pad to a bikini wax.
Ok. Now, get out there and experience the pain! oh, and the beauty.